It seems that all my friends have babies, are getting married, getting engaged or in a relationship and I am totally ok and happy about that. I'm not sad about being "alone" at all. Alone doesn't exist for me, I have Jesus, a suitcase and coffee, I can do anything. I'd love to be married one day, but travel is such a beautiful romance and I really, really love being single for that reason. I just really enjoy being "untethered", I guess. I'd love to find someone else that'd enjoy floating about aimlessly like an untied balloon with me or whatever, but I don't think that will happen anytime soon and I'm totally okay with that... and happy.
The world keeps saying over and over that I need sex to be happy. From the Christian side, it's the never ending assumption that I'll disregard my passions, fall in love and settle down with a man's dreams, not mine. No man wants to follow a woman's calling, do they? Why not?
I don't understand why the Christian community is so concerned about marriage and assume that I am sad that I am unmarried. We, as Christians, need to QUIT acting as if singleness was the unforgivable sin. Paul was single. Heck, Jesus Himself was single.
Here's my main point. I'm not sad or depressed or angry. I'm not angry or depressed about being single, but I wouldn't mind not being single. You get it? I can be single and happy and still want something. It is possible to want something and not be angsty, mad, jealous or passive-aggressive before I have it. I don't need to be jealous over my friends and I'm not.
I don't need a passive-aggressive attitude towards Valentine's day. Why? My friends are happy and that makes me happy.
For example, someone, somewhere, could be eating a really, really delicious snack. Right now. Someone could be eating a great snack right now. Without me. Without my permission. Just, like, totally enjoying a snack right now. And not me. And you know what? I'm not mad about that. I don't need to be. It'd be ridiculous.
It's okay to enjoy being single but not want to remain single forever. It's a pretty basic concept. It's okay to be happy to not eat a really great snack but still maybe want a snack later.
Anyways, Happy Valentine's Day to all of you, whatever path you are on right now.
